How to start a convo about sex/romance

Dear questioner,

First of all, I think everyone struggles with this one at some point. You like someone and you want to let them know, but how? I think the biggest obstacle is that when we tell someone we like them and want to be romantically involved or want to have sex with that person we make ourselves vulnerable and then we fear rejection. Just by asking this question though you are on your want to having safer, more pleasurable sex because you care about communicating! Yay! Start by telling the person you like them and see what happens. If the person likes you back you might say something like “I want to get to know you better” or “I would like to spend more time together.” Take it one step at a time. If you want to have sex, break that down too. Start with “I want to kiss you” or whatever it is you want to do first. You don’t have to play all your cards at once, but by taking one step at a time you can control how vulnerable you want to be and will also be on your way to having healthy conversations with this person and others about how you do or don’t want to be intimate as the relationship progresses.

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