Oh Dam!

What the heck is a dental dam? It’s basically a condom-type barrier for your tongue, only flat against your partner, not a tube! Just like you would use a condom for penis-vagina sex, if you are putting your mouth on someone else’s clitoris, vulva, vagina or anus, use a barrier!

Boring, but important:  Sexually transmitted infections including herpes, HPV and gonorrhea can travel between your mouth and your sex partner’s butt or vulva.

The fun part: Dental dams are nice and big to give you lots of coverage for lots of creative pleasuring. They also come in flavors! You layer your dam like this-

butt or vulva/vagina/clitoris then lots of lube, then dental dam, then your tongue. All that lube will make things feel even better for whomever is receiving all your action.

Dental dams can be expensive and we don’t always have them in stock on campus. You can sometimes get them from the residence advisors or from the health center. You can DEFINITELY get them from the URGE/askeva table in the CC on Wednesday October 19th from 11am-1pm. If you want some oral fun before that or ever find yourself without a dam when you need one you can cut a condom or glove into a rectangle and use that. You can also cut Saran brand plastic wrap to whatever size and shape you want. Here’s the thing with Saran wrap, though, I like a bargain as much as the next gal, but ONLY Saran brand has been tested to not allow the passage of the stuff you are trying to avoid passing. ALSO SUPER IMPORTANT don’t buy the microwave friendly Saran wrap. It has special vent holes which is exactly what you DON’T want.

As with anything sex-related communication and playfulness make it way more fun (and safe!). Take turns putting on your lube and dam, experiment with brands and flavors and find something you enjoy!

-eva

 

 

 

 

 

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Happy National Midwifery Week!

Hi Friends,

 

In honor of National Midwifery Week (next week) I want to spread the word that midwives are reproductive healthcare providers who offer family-centered childbirth AND reproductive health care for people through out the lifespan. Reproductive justice, of course, includes the right to information about childbirth choices. Midwives specialize in education and choice and operate based on a set of hallmarks that starts with the patient or client as a partner in care. If you are looking for a new healthcare provider, consider seeing a midwife! You can find out more about midwifery care at the website and on the video here:

 

http://www.ourmomentoftruth.com/

 

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MLVwdmlZU_8&feature=youtu.be

The Each Woman Act

This coming Tuesday at the URGE meeting (7-8pm in the library basement) and Wednesday (at lunchtime outside the CC), the Otterbein University URGE chapter and our statewide organizer, Allie Lahey, will be educating about the each woman act which has a radical agenda to reverse funding restrictions for abortion and address the disparity in abortion access for low income women and women of color. Note in the restrictions below that restrictions on public funding are among the many abortion restrictions in Ohio.

http://allaboveall.org/resource/about-the-each-woman-act/ https://www.congress.gov/bill/114th-congress/house-bill/2972

Restrictions on Abortion

In Ohio, the following restrictions on abortion were in effect as of December 1, 2015:

  • A woman must receive state-directed counseling that includes information designed to discourage her from having an abortion and then wait 24 hours before the procedure is provided. Counseling must be provided in person and must take place before the waiting period begins, thereby necessitating two separate trips to the facility.
  • Health plans that will be offered in the state’s health exchange under the Affordable Care Act can only cover abortion in cases when the woman’s life is endangered, rape or incest.
  • Abortion is covered in insurance policies for public employees only in cases of life endangerment, rape or incest.
  • Medication abortion must be provided using the FDA protocol, thereby preventing the use of a more common, simpler evidence-based regimen.
  • The parent of a minor must consent before an abortion is provided.
  • Public funding is available for abortion only in cases of life endangerment, rape or incest.
  • Most women will undergo an ultrasound before obtaining an abortion; since the provider must test for the fetal heartbeat. The woman will be offered the option to view the image.

https://www.guttmacher.org/fact-sheet/state-facts-about-abortion-ohio

 

 

Sexual Pleasure and URGE

At Otterbein’s chapter of URGE (Unite for Reproductive and Gender Equity) we’ve talked a lot about our own experiences of “sex ed.” Of course these varied from absolutely NOTHING, to abstinence only to videos of the worst possible genital warts a person could have! There is SO much more to sex ed than how not to get pregnant or “catch something.” (That stuff is super important to0 though, so keep those good questions headed my way!)

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) definition of sexual health states (italics are mine):

“Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences , free of coercion, discrimination and violence.” http://cdc.gov/sexualhealth/default.html#who

How cool is that? Not only do you have the right to sexual safety and respect, you have the right to sexual pleasure! Talk about it. Own it.

Check out URGE here: http://urge.org/

Join the Otterbein URGE Facebook page here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1173125236035022/

Pregnant? Need Help?

Have you seen those benches that say “Pregnant? Need help?” or those places offering free prenatal ultrasounds? Buyer beware! Often facilities offering free prenatal services are crisis pregnancy centers, religiously affiliated facilities posing as health clinics. Their agenda is to deter vulnerable women with unplanned pregnancies from having abortions. Of course people are entitled to be against abortion and even to set up to clinics to serve women who don’t want abortions, but deception and reproductive coercion are totally uncool. CPCs often set up shop close to legitimate health care facilities and intentionally use similar names to fool women into coming to them. Many crisis pregnancy centers list abortion as a service they offer in order to lure in pregnant women and then coerce them with false information. How can you know you are going to a reputable facility? Ask if they provide contraception, abortion, and STI screening. If the answer is not completely clear you may be in a CPC.

The following are some CPCs in the Columbus area:

http://www.womenscarecenter.org/columbus/

http://www.pdhc.org/

Legitimate low cost reproductive health services are available here:

https://www.columbus.gov/publichealth/

https://www.columbus.gov/publichealth/programs/Women-s-Health,-Family-Planning/

http://www.primaryonehealth.org/

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/planned-parenthood-greater-ohio

 

 

Lube: What’s it all about?

Hey you with the lube! Did you know lube isn’t just a fun sexcessory, it’s part of safer sex?

 

What? How does lube make sex safer? Well, let’s just say you have mucous membranes (anus, vagina) and you have friction (the part that is supposed to feel good!) Without lube, friction + mucous membranes=microfissures (Ouch!)

 

Microfissures are an entry point for infection and, let’s face, don’t feel good.

 

So, what to do?

 

Get some lube, friend.

 

Get any flavor or color you want, but make sure you get a kind that won’t break down your condom/dental dam/glove (more on these fun barrier methods in another post).

 

Water based lube is inexpensive and easy to clean up. You’ll need a generous amount to keep up that lubed feeling. Fine with barrier methods

 

Silicone-based lube is pricier, but lasts longer during sex play. Can be messy and staining. Fine with barrier methods

 

Oil based lube (stuff you might have in the kitchen-literally cooking oil). This stuff is cheap and accessible but IS NOT SAFE TO USE WITH BARRIER METHODS. Oil based lubes will break down your condoms AND wear out your sex toys. Oil based products also have messy clean up.

 

 

Now that you have your lube make sure you are TALKING about it with your sex partner. Discuss who will apply the lube to whom, and try it on different spots.

 

Check out more lube and barrier info and ideas at http://condommonologues.com/condoms-make-me-horny/#ixzz3hxrBabF6

Vaginal Yeast Infections

Vaginal yeast, the second most common vaginal infection, is caused by a fungal organism called candida albicans. Vaginal yeast is NOT sexually transmitted, but there are certain factors than can make a person more at risk. Risk factors include any compromise to the immune system, taking antibiotics, diabetes, and pregnancy. The most common symptoms are itching of the vagina and vulva (the area surrounding the vaginal opening) and thick, white discharge. If you think you have a yeast infection there are over the counter vaginal creams and suppositories you can try. If you’re not sure what’s going on, it’s a good idea to visit a healthcare professional. A nurse midwife, nurse practitioner, physician assistant or physician can help you figure out what is wrong and how to treat it. If you are concerned that you might have a sexually transmitted disease or infection, but do not want to have a pelvic exam, it IS possible to be tested by giving a urine sample or collecting a swab from your own vagina.

Legitimate low cost reproductive health services are available on campus and here:

https://www.columbus.gov/publichealth/

https://www.columbus.gov/publichealth/programs/Women-s-Health,-Family-Planning/

http://www.primaryonehealth.org/

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/planned-parenthood-greater-ohio